5 Rules To Follow As You Find Your Spark

5 Rules To Follow As You Find Your Spark

I have 5 little rules that you can follow as you find your spark and bring your spark to life.

The first, is to go after the things that you want. Let me tell you a story. So a friend of mine and I, we went for a run in Central Park. The Roadrunners organization on the weekends they host races and it's very common at the end of the races they'll have a sponsor who will give away something, apple or bagels or something and on this particular day, when we got to the end of the run there were some free bagels and they had picnic tables set up and on one side was a group of volunteers. On the table were boxes of bagels and on the other side was a long line of runners waiting to get their free bagel.

So I said to my friend, "lets get a  bagel." and he looked at me and said, "ah, that line is too long." and I said, "free bagel." and he said, "I don't want to wait in line." and I was like, "FREE BAGEL." and he says, "No, that's too long." and that's when I realized there's two ways to see the world.

> Some people see the thing that they want, and some people see the thing that prevents them from getting the thing that they want. I could only see the bagels, he could only see the line. Because the rule is you can go after whatever you want. you just cannot deny anyone else to go after whatever they want. You don't have to do it the way everyone else has done it. You can do your way, you can break the rules, you just can't get in the way of somebody else getting what they want.

Rule number 2 In the 18th century, there was something that spread across Europe, and eventually made it's way to America called Puerperal fever. Also known as The Black Death Of Childbed. basically what was happening is women were giving birth and they would die within 48 hours after giving birth. This Black Death Of Childbirth was the revege of Europe and it got worse and worse and worse over the course of the century and these doctor and men of science wanted to study and try find the reason for this black death of childbed and so they got to work studying, and they would study the corpse of the women who had died. In the morning they would conduct autopsies and in the afternoon they would go and deliver babies and finish their rounds. and it wasn't until somewhere in the mid 1800s, that Dr. Oliver Wendell Holmes realized, that all of these doctors who are conducting autopsies in the morning, weren't washing their hands before they delivered babies in the afternoon. and he pointed it out and said, "Guys, your the PROBLEM." and they ignored him and called him crazy for 30 years. Until, finally somebody realized that if they simply washed their hands, it would go away. and that's exactly what happend. when they started sterillizing their instruments and washing their hands, the black death of childbed disappeared.

>> The lesson here is sometimes your the problem. take accountability for your actions. You can take all the credit in the world for the things that you do right as long as you also take responsibility for the things you do wrong. It must be a balanced equation. You don't get it one way and not the other. You get to take credit when you also take accountability.

Lesson 3, take care of each other. The United States Navy Seals, are perhaps the most elite warriors in the world and one of the seals was asked, who makes it through the selection process? who is able to become a seals? and his answer was, "I can't tell you the kind of person that become seal. I can't tell you the kind of person that makes it through buds but I can tell you the kind of people who don't become Seals."

He says the guys that show up with huge bulging muscles covered in tatoos, who want to prove to the world how tough they are. None of them make it through. He said the preening leaders who like to delegate all their responsibility and never do anything themselves, none of them make it through. He said some of the guys that make it through are skinny, scrawny. He said some of the guys that make it through you'll see them shivering out of fear. He says, however all the guys that make it through, when they find themselves physically spent, emotionally spent. when they have nothing left to give physically or emotionally, somehow some way, they are able to find the energy to dig down deep inside themselves to find the energy to help the guy next to them. They become seals, he said. You want to be an elite warrior? It's not about how tough you are, It's not about how smart you are, It's not about how fast you are. If you want to be an elite warrior, you better get really really good at helping the person to the left of you, and helping the person to the right of you. Because that's now people advance in the world. The world is too dangerous, and the world is too difficult for you to think that you can do these things alone. If you find your spark, I command you. Now who you gonna ask for help? and when are you gonna accept help when it's offered?

Learned that skill.

>>> Learn by praticing helping each other, it will be the single most valuable thing you ever learned in your entire life to accept help when it's offered and to ask for it when you know that you can't do it. The amazing thing is when learn to ask for help, you will discover that there are people all around you who've always wanted to help you. they just didn't think you needed it, because you kept pretending that you had everything under control. and the minute you say, "I don't know what I am doing, I'm stuck, I'm scared, I don't think I can do this." You'll find that lots of people who love you will rush in and take care of you. but that will only happen if you learn to you take care of them first.

Lesson 4, Nelson Mandela is a particularly special case study in the leardership world. Because he is universally regarded as a great leader. He was actually the son of a tribal chief, and he was asked one day, "How did you learn to be a great leader?" and he responded that he would go with his father to tribal meetings, and he remember two things when his father would meet with other elders. 

>>>> 1: they would always sit in a circle. and 2: his father was always the last to speak. You'll be told your whole life that you need learn to listen. I would say that you need to learn to be the last to speak. I see in boardrooms everyday of the week. even people who consider themselves good leaders who may actually be decent leaders will walk into a room and say, "Here is the problem, here is what I think but I'm interested in your opinion, let's go around the room." It's too late. The skill to hold your opinions to yourself until everyone has spoken does two things. 

1, It gives everybody else the feeling that they have been heard. It gives everyone else the ability to feel that they have contributed. and

2, You get the benefit of hearing what everybody else has to think before you render your opinion. to keep your opinions to yourself. If you agree with somebody, don't nod "Yes." If you disagree with somebody, don't nod "No." Simply sit there, take it all in and the only thing you're allowed to do is ask questions. So that you can understand what they mean and why they have the opinion that they have. You must understand from where they are speaking, why they have the opinion that they have, not just what they are saying. and at the end, you will get your turn.

Practice being the last to speak. That's what Nelson Mandela did.

Number 5, my favorite one of all. True story. There was a former Undersecretary Of Defense who was invited to give a speech at large conference about a 1000 people, and he was standing on the stage with his cup of coffe, in a styrofoam cup. and he took a sip of this coffe, and he smiled. and he look down at the coffe, and then he went off-script. and he said "You know last year, I spoke at this exact same conference. Last year, I was still the Undersecretary and when I spoke here last year, they flew me here business class. and when I arrived at the airport, there was somebody waiting for me to take me to my hotel. and they took me to my hotel, and they had already checked me in, and they just took me up to my room. and the next morning I came downstairs, and there was someone waiting in the lobby to greet me, and they drove me to this here same vanue, and handed me a cup of coffe in a beautiful ceramic cup." He says, "I'm no longer the Undersecretary. I flew here coach. I took a taxi to my hotel and I checked myself in. When I came down the lobby this morning, I took another taxi to this venue. and when I asked someone " Do you have any coffe?" he pointed to the coffe machine in the corner and I poured myself a cup of coffe into this here styrofoam cup.

He says the lesson is the ceramic cup was never meant for me. It was meant for the position I held. I deserve a styrofoam cup. 

>>>>* Remember this, as you gain fame, as you gain fortune, as you gain position and seniority, people will treat you better. They will hold doors open for you, they will get you a cup of tea and coffe without you even asking, none of that stuff is meant for you. That stuff is meant for the position you hold. It is meant for the level that you have achieved of leader or success or whatever you want to call it, but you will always deserve a styrofoam cup.

Remember that lesson of humility and gratitude. You can accept all the free stuff, you can accept all the perks. Absolutely you can enjoy them, but just be grateful for them, and know that they're not for you. Thank you very very much guys. You're wonderful.

Thank you.

NEVER STOP LEARNING

IQBAL MUSALIM

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